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爱君如梦网易博客圈,爱君如梦, 冷月秋残云弄，过燕影单愁笼。独醉客乡人，缘海浪翻深重。谁懂！谁懂！还是爱君如梦。网易博客| 空间服务| 博客圈| 搜索圈子正在加载用户信息... 爱君如梦 http://q.163.com 首页讨论区日志相册圈友关于我们你没有此页面的管理权限 !

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近日，忙于工作，博客无时间打理，以至荒草从生，门可罗雀。原本捉襟见肘的人气如今更是余温散尽，呵呵。

写博原本是为抒发情感，释放情绪的自发、自觉行为，写着写着，就写成了习惯，遇到没有时间更新日志的情况，心有戚戚焉，仿佛亏欠了什么，大有无颜见江东父老的意思，突然明白，“江东父老”原来都在自己的心里，倘若自己不介意，也就无所谓江东父老的关注。

那天，在《第一时间》里听到一个说法，感觉很到位，一见钟情是一种自恋。理由是据有关研究表明：人更喜欢关注自己的人，直视的目光，欣赏的微笑，都会让人体释放出更多的荷尔蒙，处在亢奋之中。

爱上一个人还是爱上一种感觉，本来是很难分得清楚的一个问题，一见钟情当然不能排除掉自恋。“相见恨晚”从根本上说，也是人对自我的肯定在经历许多无人喝彩的孤独之后得到首肯的一种心灵满足。

以写博为例，深呼吸着告诉自己，别介意那个为断变化的数字，甚至可能的话，看都不要看。结果是，每每打开网页，自己还是禁不住用眼角斜睨了那串数字。之所以斜睨，真真是无颜面对自己的痛下的决心。那掷地有声的决心，在那么一刹那，让门可罗雀的人气显得无足轻重，让不断提笔的信心一浪高过一浪。沾沾自喜于超脱中的情绪还没有平复，登陆博客后的第一件事情还是斜睨那串数字，颤抖抖的。

据自己多年网上潜水的经验，很多网页点开后，看都不会看就关上了。信息爆炸的时代，为不合自己心意的内容，何必浪费时间？

点者无意，被点者有心，无意的一点，实实在在的增加一点人气，也增加了网页主人的一点信心，仿佛陌生人的一个微笑，神秘而有诱惑力。主人赶紧挺直的身子，屏住呼吸，小心翼翼的把客人送回家去。扫扫屋屋内的陈设，一切了然于胸，客人变成主人后，神秘的光环便隐去，面目一下子明晰起来。亲和或冷面，皆有评断。倘若你感兴趣便驻足片刻；了无生趣便勿勿的踏下一个脚印，权做谢礼。

说了这么多，掉过头来审视属于自己的那串数字，有多少是出于自情自愿点击进入，留下的逗号？或感叹号？专程来分享我的故事和精神所得的人又有多少呢？想来应该比小指尖还小微小得多吧！可是，想明白这一切的自己，还是看重那串数字，哭笑不得。遂，找来借口若干。

人是为自己活着的，话虽如此，我们还是常常因为别人的一点点细小的动作，或欢欣雀跃，或心有不甘。谁不喜欢喜欢自己的人，讨厌不正眼看自己的人？我狭小的视野里看到的是，人人都向往那种即使是自己一副满不在乎的样子，也能引起别人尖叫的场景。谁都希望人生舞台上自己是永远的主角！

现实生活里，形式上做到这一点的，就是那些所谓的明星了，尤以娱乐明星为最，简直到了出神入化的地步。振臂一呼，尖声无数。实际上，谁都知道，粉丝们的追捧就是明星们的腰杆，倘若过气比从来没有达到此境的人，更加落寞。

真真，博客页脚的一串数字，就是博主的底气。我的底气不足，说起话来，当然也就是瞻前顾后，唯唯诺诺，生怕别人嘲笑了去。自己面前也只能是斜睨，岂不悲哉!

就在写日志的这一刻，我突然痛下了另一个决心：从此，正视那串闹心的数字。正视之下，固强补弱，努力增加自己的魅力分值。想让人一见钟情，不先把媚眼抛的得心应手，怎么行？呵呵，自恋也得找到释放的出口嘛！

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